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Feb 26, 2018

Diana Ryan and Kieland McClellan advise on how to get the most out of swinging as a person of color.

0:00 Introduction and host chat

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1:00 Announcements

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2:30 How to get what you want out of swinging

Diana Ryan and Kieland McClellan give advice to a listener who doesn’t feel welcome in most swinging spaces in Wisconsin and who keeps encountering women interested in her man but not in her.

  • See who you vibe with and ignore the rest
  • Ask the host to introduce you to people
  • If there is a Facebook group, chat people up there first and invite them to say hello when they see you at the live events
  • Consider reassessing only playing together—maybe playing separately in the same room?
  • Or consider kink events, where people can be more open-minded

Find Diana on her website, 360 Life Skills, on Twitter at @ch1pmunkryan, Facebook at 360 Coaching & Counseling, and Instagram at with_coach_di. Kieland is available on Facebook at Keiland McClanahan or via email at

27:45 Happy poly moment

Jai writes in to share her happy sisterhood poly moment after episode 544.

29:00 How to make this podcast better

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